Today's Intention: Seek first to Understand.
Since I began studying yoga consistently, my self awareness has truly increased. During those wonderful, albeit fleeting, phases when I am feeling particularly inspired and in alignment with Grace, I push myself to experiment with different perspectives, actions and practices which don't usually come naturally.
Right in the midst of conflict, I have tried shifting the way I usually operate and letting my intention become to truthfully understand all I can. It is through this exercise that I learn so much. One of my tendencies, when I am out of balance, is to focus too much of my energy on being understood. This creates barriers in communication. And when I reflect honestly, I can see its a sign of emotional immaturity, as well as a lack of self-trust and self-confidence. Only when I feel sure of who I am can I abandon the need for others to understand and validate me.
When there is conflict of any kind, to any degree, today I will seek first to understand the situation and the other person's perspective. I will remain conscious of my walls, of not being reactionary, and I will create space for more silence so that I can truly hear what is present.
Evon, you have so eloquantly put into words what I try to achieve (in various degrees of unsuccessfulness) every day with sixth graders...I want to print your words to read before I let them in the door each morning: to remind me of my mission!
ReplyDeleteLaura... I can only imagine your day in, day out regime and your commitment to understanding! Your students are lucky to have you. Thanks for reading the blog!
ReplyDeletestill loving the blog. this entry is particularly inspiring.
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